Beat a cheat at their own game!
How can you tell if you have a cheating partner? The indicators of infidelity vary from relationship to relationship, but there are some similar threads to watch for.
First and foremost, I’ll tell you this: If your instinct tells you that your spouse is cheating, chances are that you’re right.
However, before confronting your significant other about their infidelity, you may want to get proof. Here are some common red flags to keep an eye out for:
Secretive phone or computer use:
Cheats tend to use their phones and laptops more frequently than they used to, and they guard them as if their lives depended on them. It’s not a good indication if your partner’s phone never required a password before and suddenly does.
If your spouse can never leave their phone unattended, even when they go into the bathroom to shower then they probably have something up their sleeve. It’s also an issue if you ask to use your partner’s phone and they refuse.
What might possibly be there that they would wish to keep hidden, except for information about your surprise birthday?
Periods when you are unable to contact your spouse:
If your spouse is cheating on you, he or she will not be really available to pick up your calls or react to your texts. You could hear plausible reasons like they were in a meeting, driving, or stuck in “Lagos traffic” and didn’t realize you were trying to contact them.
It’s a terrible indicator if your spouse just goes ‘Missing In Action’ for some periods of time.
How much sex do you and your partner have?
Sexual activity levels in your relationship might be lowered or raised, which can be an indication of infidelity. If your spouse is preoccupied with someone else; more sex can occur when they are attempting to conceal this.
Another clue that you’re cheating is that the sex you’re having with your spouse seems less emotionally linked and less enthusiastic about having sex with you.
Friends appear to be uneasy around you:
When it comes to infidelity; YOU, the betrayed partner, are almost always the last to learn. Friends of the cheater are frequently aware of the infidelity from the outset, and your own friends are likely to learn about it long before you do.
This information usually makes these people feel uneasy while they’re near you. Friends of the cheater may try to avoid you or be extremely kind to you. Your own friends may attempt to avoid discussing your relationship with you, and they may compensate by being overly kind.
If you discover that your spouse has cheated on you, I highly advise you not to face this truth alone. If you don’t feel comfortable addressing your spouse, talk to a trustworthy friend, your clergy, or a therapist.
#LoveAndShips is a relationship series where matters of the heart are laid bare. This edition talks about how to intricately decipher if your spouse is cheating on you.
