Get the girl of your dreams!
In movies and, yes, in real life, you see drop-dead stunning ladies in the arms of regular guys. Whether your ideal girl is Nancy Isime or the bookworm down the hall, we are giving you tips on how to stack the deck in your favour.
We’re not talking about being a charlatan or duping a lady into falling in love with you like a certain Tinder Swindler.
We gathered the greatest dating and life tips for becoming your best self and getting the girl you think is out of your league.
1. Be confident in yourself
A guy who understands his value, who he is, and what he wants is very appealing. The first step is always defining who you think you are and who you aren’t. In other words, before you can be with any woman, you must first understand what you want and need in life and in a relationship.
Furthermore, if you’re dissatisfied with your identity, that insecurity might be the source of your dating insecurities and why you don’t feel worthy of an exceptional female.
2. Do not place her on a pedestal
Determine why you want to be with her. Sure, her degree, career, social position, beauty, and maybe even her height might make you feel frightened. But are these things having an effect on you?
If you’re just interested in her because she’s an Instagram model or you have an ex you’d want to make jealous of, you’re going to have some issues. Remove her off the pedestal and consider whether or not you can envision yourself in a relationship with her.
3. Make the First Step
Simply walk up to her and say hello—on the BRT Terminal, in the street, or anywhere. Women have the same mental conflict when it comes to striking up discussions with guys. So, for the most part, you must initiate the initial move.
Look at her energy and body language before you say hello. It’s probably not the greatest moment to approach her if she seems closed off, like if she’s facing the corner of a bus terminal with her headphones on. If she seems open, talk to her from a place that’s interested in getting to know her.
In this manner, you have a far higher chance of gaining her phone number and perhaps even a date.
4. Make sure she has a good time
So, you received the date. Whether you’re going out to dinner or doing something unusual (like these entertaining first dates), ask her questions that go a little deeper than the surface.
Make little physical gestures that link the two of you far away from the friend zone.” First, assess the circumstances and see how she responds to your leaning in while speaking to her. Kiss her if you make it to the second and third dates. Take her hand in yours. Make real advances, and if she responds, wonderful; that’s your green signal.
If she’s not responding, try again—just once!—to see if she’s more receptive. If not, maybe she’s just interested in friendship. And if that’s the case, it’s time to move on to the next one.
5. Make known what you wish to obtain
Finally, you must be sincere and honest—and just put yourself out there. Ask for it, whether you want a second date with her or to make things more formal. Always ask for what you want in life and with women. Ask respectfully, but be prepared to hear no.
If you don’t inquire, you’ll never know and will be kept in the dark.
#Unsolicited is a segment for reviews and opinion pieces. This edition highlights how any guy can approach and get the lady of his dreams.
