Love him jeje, love him tender!
Contrary to what most women think, men need to be shown love too. They love it when you express your love to them. If you are reading this, it means you believe in love and you are searching for tips on how you can express love to the Nigerian man in your life.
You’re not alone, many women in love struggle to express love to their partners. We’re here to help, here are 7 ways you can show your man you love him today:
1. Give Him Peace Of Mind
We can all agree that Rema spoke for all men when he sung “…I’m looking for some peace of mind…” Being a man isn’t a day’s job which is why Nigerian men are always on the lookout for women who give them peace of mind. If you want to show him love, start by being his peace and not his headache.
Constantly complaining, nagging and looking for reasons to fight isn’t how to be his peace. What you should do instead is try to understand him, encourage him when he’s going through rough patches, listen to him, pray with him and be loyal to him.
P.S. Incessant fighting doesn’t make the relationship ‘fun’.
2. Take It Easy With The Billing
We should by saying that unless the man you love is your husband, the only man whose money you are permitted to feel entitled to (if at all) is your father. Yes, we said what we said. While it’s okay to ask your man for financial help from time to time, never feel like this is something he must do.
Also, allow your conscience to guide you as you bill him–if you have conscience. There’s such a thing as overbilling. As much as Nigerian men love to spoil their women, they do not want to be overbilled. Assess your man’s pocket and bill accordingly.
3. Bring Out His Inner Child
They’ll never admit it but men are babies and love being babied by their women. They act like they don’t like cheesy things like making TikTok couple videos, having couple photoshoots, wearing matching outfits and having their braided but na them love am pass.
Engage in activities that bring out his inner child. Create a safe space where he cannot only be vulnerable around you but one where he can feel like a child again.
4. Give Him Space
Although women may not completely understand, men need their space. They can love you dearly, enjoy your company it but still need their alone time. You shouldn’t be all up in his face all the time.
We get that you’re the love of his life, and his world is supposed to revolve around you but then…Sometimes you must give him space to be alone, to play games, chill with the boys or address the burdens on his shoulder.
5. Spoil Him With Gifts
They might not ask for it but they also want to receive gifts. Do you know some men have never gotten a birthday cake? People tend to assume men do not need the mushy stuff as they are expected to be manly and tough. Well, breaking news; they do!
So as the cash madam that you are, get him that PS5 or any other thing he’s been eyeing. Men deserve to be spoiled too, so order that food tray today.
6. Cook For Him
With the number of pot-bellied men in the country, this should be no surprise. Please we’re not looking for trouble, we’re just stating what is obvious. You know they say the stomach is the way to a man’s heart.
Men love it when their partner cooks them delicacies. Still reading? Tie your apron and enter the kitchen asap. If you know you will most likely burn the house, look away from this tip with style. All is fair in love and fire.
Be romantic while you’re at it, spoon feed that man of yours.
7. Give Him Explicit Views
We could not sugar-coat this one even if we tried. Most Nigerian men are one-track minded–no offence but even science backs it up. If you want to talk to him in his top love language, engage in some explicit scenes for him. Depending on the wavelength you both are on, these can range from twerking to or even sex.
Some people are of the opinion that Nigerian men are scarce. So, if you have one in your arms, hold am tight and don’t forget to explore his erogenous zones. Selah.
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