From friendzone to lovers to enemies – the circle of life
The fabled friendzone… where disillusioned romantics fantasize about their unrequited love being less unrequited. It’s something that many of us have gone through.
We often hear that women never shoot their shot, well to that I say: Men don’t know how to aim! So if you’re a guy trying to take things to the next level with your bestie/Sister-in-Christ, follow these tips:
Try to understand why…
Accepting that you have been friendzoned is the first step; the next is understanding why she doesn’t see the compatibility. This is not the time for you to change yourself for someone oh, this is to find out ways you can improve yourself and your approach to align with what she’s looking.
You might even realize you’re better off as friends.
Do NOT be thirsty, pushy or whiny!
Women are put off by obsessive males who have a “victim” mindset. This demonstrates a lack of self-esteem and security. How do you expect the relationship to last when it’s built on a foundation of pity and begging? Have some shame. The more you obsess, the more you’ll push her away.
Love can wait till next year, focus on something productive for your future!
Stop ranking her!
One of the most common reasons why men end up in the friend zone is that they idolize women and are over do the “nice guy” thing. They believe that the nicer they are, the more praises they give and the harder they simp, the more likely the woman is to fall in love. Fail!
When you grovel under her, it shows that you believe this woman is better than you and that you are looking for her approval and validation. That’s not sexy.
Stop calling and messaging her all the time!
She isn’t going anywhere, and taking a few steps back isn’t the end of the world. Instead of calling her, text her. Instead of everyday good morning text, sometimes send it to your mother and/or sister instead? Don’t be that guy that when she sees your notification, she starts to vex.
Allow her to begin to wonder: “How come I haven’t heard from him?”
Be a friend!
Play it cool and actually be a good friend! Once you remove the pressure and establish a genuine connection, it’s easier to take things to the next stage. Who knows, as you show her less romantic interest, she might realize she prefers that side of you.
#LoveAndShips is a relationship series where matters of the heart are laid bare. In this edition, we highlighted how to get the attention of your crush and smoothly escape the friendzone.
